The key to instant popularity?
Make people feel good about themselves.
When people around you feel good about themselves, they will like you and seek more opportunities to experience the same inner glow.
If it is so simple, why don’t more people do it more often?
One simple answer is that we spend too much energy focused on ourselves and our own feelings that we end up ignoring the energy of others, if only by default.
Smile
Sincere smiles from the heart trigger warm, reciprocal feelings.
Praise
Compliment. Appreciate. Be specific and avoid insincere flattery. Look for the best in everyone and in every situation.
Ask questions that show an interest, listen attentively
Use their names. Dale Carnegie, author of the perennial best seller, “How to Win Friends & Influence People,” said “a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”
Use their names. Dale Carnegie, author of the perennial best seller, “How to Win Friends & Influence People,” said “a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”
Empathise
See the world from their perspective. Reflect back their feelings toward them, show understanding: “So you feel…” “Sounds like you are experiencing…”
Ask a favour of them
Strange as it may seem, research again and again has shown that when one asks a reasonable favour of another, a bond is formed. This is known as the Ben Franklin effect. (Not kidding. There even is a Wikipedia entry on it.)
As simple as that. And if all else fails, there's the Christmas party.
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As simple as that. And if all else fails, there's the Christmas party.
Website: www.grantstanley.co.uk
LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/pub/grant-stanley/9b/21a/401
Twitter: @CSMconsultants1
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